How do you manage your emotions? How effective are your strategies? How many options have you tried?
Often, people will adopt emotional management strategies that are recommended by others. However, what works for one person will not necessarily work for another. This perceived failure to perform the technique ‘correctly’ can cause negative emotions such as frustration or thinking such as comparing yourself to others. This is not the case. It may simply be that technique was not the right technique for you at that time. Likewise, what works for one person one moment will not necessarily work for them in the next moment. Therefore, it is important to trial numerous techniques so that when the need arises, you have a selection to choose from. If anyone wants support identifying techniques to manage their emotions, please do not hesitate to contact me.
So, once we have identified how we are feeling and named the emotion, taking back control from the emotion, we will still have physical sensations from the emotion to contend with. In addition, we will still have the root issue to manage to prevent recurrence. In order to tackle this issue effectively I find it best to approach the issue in a calm state for effective resolution.
An effective way to manage our emotions can be to use Mindfulness. Once we have scanned our body for the emotional cues, we can use Mindful Breathing directed towards the tension, ache, or restlessness to relax that area of the body. Focus on the area breathing into it. It is about bringing awareness to our cues, which can support us in identifying and managing future emotions at an even earlier stage. This can be done anywhere, at any time. It is important to approach this with a non-judgemental and compassionate mindset, as opposed to a confrontational attitude. Once we receive these messages from our physical being with kindness as opposed to hostility, we are opening ourselves to a curiosity with calm awareness. Instead of fighting the emotion, embrace it as it is part of our being.
Once we have calmed our emotional state, we can now look towards tackling the root issue. I find it beneficial to take a break from the issue and clear my mind before tackling it. This can give me time to process my options. It will be a personal choice. At least now, you are aware of the issue and have given yourself the opportunity to choose. It may be that it is time sensitive and requires immediate action. However, approaching resolving the issue with a clear mind and calmer emotional state will provide you with the opportunity to approach it with compassion as opposed to confronting it with hostility. Compassion will breed compassion. Hostility will breed hostility. It is a like for like exchange.
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