Have you ever decided on something that you later regret? Have you ever made multiple decisions you regret? Why did you make those decisions?
Some people may think that these things always happen to them. Others may think that the universe is against them. These are examples of an external locus of control. This means that they are blaming outside forces for their own behaviour. Some things are outside our control. We can only control ourselves, not other people. Other people will act as they see appropriate.
It is preferable to lean towards an internal locus of control. This means that you believe you are in charge of your own destiny. Some things will happen outside of your control. We can only control ourselves, not other people. However, if we want to take back control of our own selves, we can.
In some instances, such as when someone has suffered a traumatic experience, it is best to seek professional support.
We will all likely have hazardous emotions that we find it difficult to deal with. I know I have in the past. Once we know what these are, then we can manage them.
The benefits of managing hazardous emotions are numerous and include:
Feeling more in control of ourselves
Feeling more in control of our futures
Feeling more stable
Improved self-esteem
Improved confidence
Less conflict
Improved relationships
Improved empathy
Improved perspective taking
Improved conflict resolution
If anyone wants any support with identifying negative emotions, please don’t hesitate to book a Free Mindset Meeting here: Home | Chloe Mepham BSc Certified Life Coach.